Holding Hands.....

For the longest of time i keep thinking back on the days of courtship, how actually 2 person REALLY get together (well not long actually I HAVE only been married 3 years) ? The typical line of " Ai cho STEADY mai?" have been (I believe) the most usual, upfront, no-holds barred way of "confirmng" a relationship.

In Japan, like what you see in a lot of those Jap Serial. It is true that the guy/gal confess their liking/love to the other party by asking " Would you like to "interact" with me?" The "interact" here means to have a steady relationship (and in short like what they say in Singapore "Steady"). Well in the western context, this is just totally ridiculus and outright corny statment. If you like someone, just ask them out for a date and see how it goes from there. But usually the truth is after the first date you will probably know if you want to continue seeing this person. And many a times, you cannot even get the first date. Why? Because there is just too many "build-in" filters in Singapore's narrow mind. Scarring Singapore again? not really. Let me ask this question:-

Q: How many of you actually feels "Ai cho STEADY mai?" is a really lame uncouth way of asking someone to have a relationship with you?

Well I do agree it is not the most smooth line and might be even be uncouth, but the fact is this. IT IS just a line that sounds uncouth. But the message is still there. It really all depends on how sincere and how serious the person is about the relationship with the person he is saying this line to.

So being in a "STEADY" relationship will in the Japanese context usually means to go out on a regular basis and getting to know each other better. It might or might not work out. But during this period going out with more than 1 party will mean that you are not serious and should not be in this kind of "STATUS". And without THIS level of commitment the relationship is doomed with flaws. Being more conservative....(I mean the JAPs).. the "couple" when in this "relationship" have various obligations to each other. This really all depends on how open you let people know of this relationship. The more stable the relationship, the more open the parties are willing to let the people around them know. I find it quite cute actually. Some of these relationship do not even last that far where the couple hold hands.

Seriously.... not many people think much of holding hands. But if you can seriously remember the time when your heart was pounding, your hand were teakin and your eyes dilating just moments you "5", "4", "3", "2"...touch... and start holding hands with the person who you are totally in love with. That soft smooth skin of that those little hands and delicate fingers... or that firm big hands with the rough firm skin and well build fingers. And the first long stroll you take with her/him holding hands...

No matter how firm, confident or/and experienced a person you are, if the person that you are with IS the person you truely love. You will never fail to know this tinkling when it comes...It is such an Adrenaline rush that some people are so addicted to it that when they so not feel this tinkle sensation they feel that someting is missing or the love is lost in a relationship. But the fact is you will feel it.. some last longer, some shorter. Of-course how you make this sensation grow is totally up to you(s). Many might know the word CHERISH but how many really do?


Holding hands is simple to do but how you chrish it is another.
Tinkle and Twinkle this sensation grows with warmth that fill each other.
I want to hold this hand of yours and hold it tight as long as you let me
Till the day that we can't stand each other, I believe love will still be
forever.

hahahahahahaha...mushy mushy mushy... hahahaha..