[BGR] ..... love will keep us alive???

There are many many problems that we face each day.. relationship problems are the most headaches. not like business where yes is yes and no is no... where love comes in it is all so complex.

Scenario:
- Boy meets girl
- together about 4 years
- Rich grandfather (gal's mother's father)
- Gal a bit "thousand jin siao jiar'
- Boy's family not so bad also.
- Boy and gal both well educated.
- Boy just graduated and have not found a job.

This friend of my <> not his real name. is one of the nice-est buy I have met. Do not club, do not smoke, do not drink.... can say zero vice. a Sunny-boy in general and quite good looking and have the bod to melt most girls and gays. hahahahaha. The Gal I not too sure <> pretty much psycho-ed by her mum to be a bitch but has since changed since the mum is a bit notorious. how is the mum notorious? well basically the mum just wants the gal to marry a RICH family. Nothing wrong with that since she wants her daughter to be well looked after. but just imagine the extreme.... The "physical" abuse to Jay is nothing new for the pass few year("evil eye") but the oral abuse is just one of those that can be listed in the Guinness records... even vulgarity has been heard behind the phone and this has not happened just once. forget about the Match making she does for Kay. And everyone in the Kay's family from aunties to grandparents from both side of the family likes the guy.

The thing is Kay is not exactly an angel but not the devil as well. There are things that she is brought up to "take". and just forgets about giving. But recently after a "break-up", Kay sort of found herself a mirror and have changed for the better....


After the "reunion" Jay and Kay seems to have hit it right. But to what extend I would not know. The point is, in most relationship it is not about compromising but more of acceptance and truly understanding of 2 individuI do not expect a person to change but more to know the situation and react to what is so deem appropriate... sound like the definition of the word compromise.. hahahaha..
anyway, taking into all this considerations I actually asked a few questions to Jay. (since I know Jay) :D He was in total devastation, I would too if I were in his shoes.

PAUSE... <> recently Jay just had one of those yearly catastrophe. Jay had injured his ankle in a mountain biking accident. So Kay had a gathering with her old school classmates, and Jay knows them. He is recovering but walking was bit painful. Kay of-course wanted Jay to come with her, thus the event begun. Kay drove over to Jay's place to pick him up, and of-course drive him back since he is in no condition to walk a distance of about 2~3 bus-stops from Kay's house. Anyway, in the car on the way to Jay's place after the gathering a phone call came. Kay was driving and thus Jay took the phone.... and here comes one of the most uncouth oral service one guy can ever get.here it goes...
- " you think my daughter is your driver is it?"
- " you don't marry my daughter lah.. you don't better"
- " why you got no job? you so useless"
- " my daughter supporting you is it?"

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well the quotes maybe a bit off but you get the message. this is probably one of the few occasions that the guy did not sent her home... and this was just after their "reunion".

In my eyes, I am not really bad mouthing gals with family that are wealthy but in general, I do not believe the poor and rich can ever mix. <> is a movie.
And I have time and time and some more time advice Jay on what he really wants in a relationship. Kay may have "changed" for the better but hey... is this just temp since she was the one at fault for that "break-up"? ...

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They broke up for the smallest thing..(very usual in a relationship lah) Guy always a proper gentlemen. Buy food for her, go buy for himself and "eat together"... usually he will ask her to east first since it will get cold. but this once.. the gal had already ate... the guy was starving so bought chicken rice and started eating.... but guy bought drinks for her first... so now the guy eat half way forget chilli.... how can eat chicken without chilli ???? guy asked gal. can get some chilli for me...

NO.!... and there is was... "break-up".. stupid? not really. since the guy has always been relatively understanding in her needs. And this is not just one incident and it is not as if they did not talk about it our before..... hahahaha.. still funny right?

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.. the point is now that Kay has "changed" for the better, no one really knows how much is the change. is she seeing it at the "correct" perspective and thus output such actions or is it just a guilt thingy? I would give it to her that she has finally see the "LIGHT".

Jay sits in his room and thinks. he thinks hard. Can this go ON?

From what I see he should just forget it. Why bother with the years of abuse to come? with a gal who is still not mature in mind enough?

But there is always the fairytale side in me that I want them to work out. I do hope Kay can see the real world from her own analysis of the world.

Both are not exactly young. 24 and 26.... I pointed out to Jay that 26 may sound young but taking into consideration that if he decides to go on ... he must do it all the way and get married. If not ... he better leave and let her have time to build-up another relationship. That is the responsibility a guy have to bear and see. The 30 mark for gals is always an issue.... *sigh*... many may think hec lah... the most marry later lor no issue lah. or even.. don’t marry lor... but that is beside the point.

I always believe if you open the door for the lady the first time, you better make sure you do it all the way... or just don't do it. I always believe in showing my TRUE self instead of hiding.....

hahahaha.. so much for now :D